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Created: 6/11/2010

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In our own attempt to "change" a person, we first envision that person being radically different from who or what they are. We see them in a pale light of unreality, and go about to make them into our own mold. We are not in the creating business, only God can do that. Yes, we can pray. Yes, we can help that person, but there are warning signs for Christians sticking out like bright flashing lights telling us to detour immediately. Our best detour is to get down on our knees, commit ourselves to God and ask for His leadership and direction. Here are some warning signs we should all be aware of:
a. telling little lies frequently--- if the person whom you want to have a relationship is found often telling little lies, the big ones will follow later.
b. dating others at the same time they are trying to date you--- if you have committed yourself to a relationship and the other person has not, they may have other interests elsewhere. Should you find this to be true--- stop abruptly and assess what you are doing.
c. having no interest in church or religion --- you may as well turn around now. A true Christian will want a mate who loves God and loves the things of God. Those who are not turned toward God are turned elsewhere. This can only lead to arguments and confusion for the dedicated Christian. Christ needs to be the center of all of our relationships.
d. someone whom you can't stand to look at--- yes, there are people who are obnoxious to you. I know because this happened to me. Everyone thought he was great, but everytime I looked at him, he was repulsive. Don't force yourself to settle for a person who repulses you in any way.
e. a lazy person--- if you think the person you are interested in will suddenly become industrious--- you are mistaken. You will wake up one day and find yourself doing EVERYTHING!
Relationships mean sharing responsibility. Let each prove their fidelity by working and sharing.
f. mean person--- you can't hide being mean. It eeks out at times in words and simple shoves or pushes. It starts off mildly, but ends up in physical or verbal abuse. It can result in one person seeking to totally control and incarcerate the other for their own satisfaction. No Christian person should allow themselves to be shut up in a cage of jealousy and meaness.
g. a person who hates your family members--- find a door quick and exit. If they hate your immediate family and relatives, then eventually they will wind up pulling you away from them. Unless your family members are not the kind you enjoy being around, allow no one to cause you to hate them. We need our families.
h. stingy and self-centered--- when you see another person wearing these garments--- you put on your coat, jacket, or whatever you can find and leave. Thrift is one thing, but selfish, stingy people are hard to live with. They want what you have, and want to put in little. They whine when you ask for a little from them. They don't whine when they are getting all you can give. Don't begin the "drain game".
These signs are just some of the warning signals to those who are contemplating having a lasting relationship with another person. Weigh each one carefully, and don't be fooled by outward appearances. God's word is sufficient--- beauty is on the inside-- and that goes for both men and women.